Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Referrals are in...

Well, it's official...after weeks of waiting and hoping for a bigger referral batch this month, they only got through another 6 days of LID's.

This is the same amount of days they referred last month and the month before it was only 2 days. Unfortunately, we don't know how many actual matches are being made, so we can't tell if they are actually referring the same number of children each month or not.

There are 102 days between Nov 7th (where they left off this month) and our LID. If they were to continue to refer only 6 days each month, we wouldn't have our referral until December 2008. Someone PLEASE let me that's not REALLY going to happen...that would be a 34 month total wait. If they could step it up to 12 days a month, we could have our referral in March 2008. I'm trying to get it to sink in that this may be our best case scenario (a 25 month wait), which is really hard to accept.

As much as I'm happy for those who are receiving their referrals this month, it's getting harder and harder as the months tick by to keep a positive attitude and really enjoy looking at all the referral photos rolling in. Sorry to be such a bummer, but referral day just isn't as much fun as it used to be.


Christie said...

I'm only want to say three things here:

1. agreed
2. agreed
3. agreed

Boo!!! on this whole process...

Stacy said...

It won't go to 48 months. It CAN'T!!!

We will get there. Hold On!!!

Doris & Dan said...

Hugs to you, my dear.

Keep smilin!

Ryan and Heather said...

Wow I had no idea things were going THAT slow lately! I can't imagine how frustrating that is for everyone involved. We have had our dossier in Vietnam for almost 11 months and expect to receive a referral in the next couple of months-and I thought WE were waiting a long time! Wow!
Wish you the best, just remember that things happen for a reason. You'll get your sweet baby someday and forget everything involved in the adoption process.

Kim said...

Hugs to you, Donna.

Roy and Lori said...

It does become very difficult
at times! Just keep praying
for things to speed up!


redmaryjanes said...

I agree and you are much farther ahead than we are.

Made in China said...

Hang in there - it does happen. It just happened for us and I am still in shock!

Heather said...

If it's December 2008 for you, I don't even want to contemplate what it is for us. I know we'll get through it, but still! Sigh...

Elise said...

I know it is so depressing but I just can't believe it will go out that far. I know there are so many people in my LID group who have dropped out of the program or gone SN route that I think soon those numbers will create a speed up....I can hope I grasping at straws????

rubyiscoming said...

amen, we are in the same mucky boat of depressing realizations. sigh.

Colleen said...

I wish I had some answers. All I keep thinking is once they are thru November it will speed up. I hope it does. There are so many of you that I am thinking of and praying for your times to come. I is worth the wait.

Anonymous said...


I was thinking about you today
and wanted to see whats new with
you on your blog. I know this
wait is a killer. Try and hang
in there. I hope to recieve our
referral in Aug and at that point
if will of been a 21 month wait.

Take Care,


Shelley said...

Unbelievable! I am just shaking my head wondering why it is so difficult for them to process more referrals.

Donna, I am so sorry. I wish there was something that could be done.

Hang in there!



Anonymous said...

Donna and Joe,

I am praying for both of you. Keep your faith and know that you will be given the little girl that God has planned for you. I can't imagine what you're going through, but we are all hoping that things speed up. I want to see my newest cousin!! You are in my thoughts.
Karlene and family

amy said...

Thanks for sharing your feelings on this..MIchael and I are praying for you and everyone on this journey

C.J. said...

I understand.

Don and Be said...

Our time-line is right behind yours ..... I'm calling 2007 the "Year of the Snail".
We continue to follow your story.
Don & Be